February 26, 2025

Is Your Intuitive Engine Overheating? On Learning Intuition

Check for solsticeIs your intuitive engine overheating? Meaning, do you know when your intuition is at work, and do you know how to act on it? A lot of us don’t, which is too bad.  Responding to an intuitive hit, knowing your intuition well enough to trust it, can literally be a game changer. And maybe save you a few bucks.

As in …

A few weeks ago I was out running errands. I had just put packages in my car when I heard the words, “Engine light. Engine overheating,” and saw the engine light on my dashboard go on. Surprised, I looked at my dashboard and realized I hadn’t even turned my car on yet. Of course, this was my intuition at work. I stopped and checked in with myself: my body was fine, but the incident left me with a deep foreboding.

Now, I was driving over the mountains in a few weeks, heading from Seattle to Ellensburg, WA, to, ironically, talk about using intuition in business at the new chapter of EWomen Network, run by Tara Truax.  I decided to get an early oil change with a full service check at the Toyota dealer. Later that afternoon the dealer called: I needed brakes, which we’d been monitoring, but I also needed a water pump. Good thing I went in!

When they explained it later, the only sign of a water pump failure would be a pink spray of coolant fluid under the hood as it started to go. Beyond that, it’s too late. As the service manager said: “Engine light. Engine overheating,” the same words I’d heard the week before.

I laughed. Acting on an intuitive hit had saved my car. If the water pump had blown, I would have lost my engine. And, as the service manager explained, “You would never have made it to Ellensburg, Robyn. It’s too hot, you would have lost your car.”

I was so glad I had listened to my intuition yelling at me that day in car. To clairvoyance (seeing the engine light go on on the dashboard). To clairaudience (hearing the words). To clairsentience (tuning into how I was feeling, and knowing it wasn’t my body that felt bad, it was my intuition IN my body telling me to take care of my car).

Our intuition is real. It’s not wishy-washy, it’s not a fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants, leap-into-the-unknown, touchy-feely thing. It’s a real sense that you can learn to use: to make your personal, business, and creative lives soar. I teach it and live by it. It’s real. It means you learn how to use it and how to react to it. Life gets better.

Give yourself the best chance you can in life. Develop your intuition. You’ll leave knowing how to use your intuition in a practical world, the one where listening to it can save your car’s engine, and help you live a vibrant, fulfilling life.

The car you save may be your own. The life you lead better? Yours.

© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

Profiling Ted Kerasote’s Book Pukka’s Promise

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Sept. 20, 2013

I am re-posting this review of Kerasote’s book largely because it covers the complex issue of early spay-neuter, which is beginning to be discussed on forums and, thankfully, between families and their veterinarians. I will continue to post on this topic: if you live with animals, you have a moral responsibility to care for them properly, and research over the last 10 years has definitely proven that spaying and neutering our dogs before they are sexually mature can lead to life-long serious diseases as well as terminal issues like cancer. Don’t think it can happen to your dog? Think again, people! Right now, in the U.S., 50% of our dogs over 10 are getting cancer. Many of them are suffering from arthritis, hip dysplasia, thyroid disease, obesity, incontinence, and behavioral problems that can be traced to interrupting their hormone cycle as young animals. This is a crime and must stop. Do these problems have other causes? Absolutely, but we owe it to the animals whose lives are in our hands to stop practices that we know have serious consequences.

This particular issue won’t stop unless we the consumer vote with our dollars and withhold our funds, our support, and our good will from organizations that continue to support early spay/neuter, from Best Friends to The Humane Society, to local and regional shelters and rescues, to veterinarians, pet supply stores, laws and societal pressure.

It should have occurred to all of us to question the wisdom of spaying and neutering every young dog (or cat, or animal, period) to prevent pet overpopulation. (It occurred to me 15 years ago, but I listened to the vet, fool that I was and no longer am.) Those of us who are responsible continue to be, and those who are not will not be affected, as they will always find a dog that is intact, and they will always be careless, or simply have ‘accidents.’ The larger question should be the health of every animal we come across, and that is the province of the family. Continuing a practice that we now medically know is at the least debilitating and at most murder is, quite frankly, genocide.

Another question: exactly what constitutes pet overpopulation? I wonder if it is because people adopt animals and get tired of them or give them up when they get big and haven’t been trained—plenty of reasons that have nothing to do with an animal being successfully nurtured to sexual maturity. Breeders around the country have noticed the research and have started to educate their buyers and steer them away from this practice. The big money that is involved in the animal welfare movement simply won’t listen, these people and their ideas are entrenched. Money counts. Withhold it. Do business with those who pay attention to the facts and not emotional issues.

And read Kerasote’s book. He’s done the research so all you have to do is read it, check his sources, and spread the word. The animal’s life you save may be your beloved’s. It is too late for mine.

Peace, people. Love. Sit down and talk this issue out. And think twice before you follow the new suggestions that UC Davis and others are making: tubal ligation and vasectomy may not be answers. You’ll have an entire population that doesn’t understand pyometra in female dogs, let alone mammary cancer, or understand prostate and other issues in male animals, including if retained sperm can cause cancer, which they are beginning to question in humans. But at least they are going in the right direction in researching it.

Money talks. Keep yours in your pocket. Only adopt animals whose future you decide as a family member.

And another thing: rescue is a word, not a breed. Give it up. Find your heart match. Now spread the word. And read on for my original post on Kerasote’s book (which he has ignored, too bad).

Ted Kerasote and I have two things in common.

We both lost our beloved older dogs to horrific diseases: his boy, Merle, to a brain tumor, and my girl, Murphy, a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel, to hemangiosarcoma.

We both are doing what we can to change those endings for other people and their dogs while we give our animal family members the best lives possible.

But how?

Kerasote certainly gained an audience with his book, Merle’s Door, which detailed his life in Wyoming with a stray dog he ‘adopted’ on a trip to Utah. It’s fascinating for me, whose outdoor adventures are limited to the occasional cherished trip to Yellowstone and the sidewalks of my beachside Seattle neighborhood, to read about (and be thrilled by) the adventures of an avid sportsman and his energetic dog.

There’s a reason I live with Cavaliers, well, one now (and a cat). The same reason Kerasote doesn’t.

Kerasote is one of the few writers whose books appeal to me because of their quality and heart: well, his dog books, as I haven’t read the others, but I’m hooked now, and will. His new one, Pukka’s Promise: The Quest for Longer-Lived Dogs, continues that fine tradition of smart, well-written, possibly researched-to-death books that educate as well as they entertain.

I know, he’s been criticized for mixing his personal life into his research, but that’s actually a tribute to a great writer.

And what awesome criticism it is! It’s saying that in a world that tends to ignore facts for fanaticism, Kerasote’s relentless research to find a way to choose a dog and then help it live a long life is so compelling that we don’t want the distraction of his personal life. We just want the facts—what he discovered in his quest to learn from the people who feed, treat, breed, train, and entertain our dogs as he explores the industries they work in. What a testament to his rigorous research and his writing that in a sound bite culture a serious book about dogs is both welcome and admired.

But I for one (and many) admire it more because he doesn’t hesitate to show us why it matters: he loves living with dogs, and, like most of us, wants them around as long as possible, so he’s trying to figure out how.

I know. I’ve spent the last 15 years on that one. I thought I had it all figured out—food, vaccinations, toys, green living, fun. I had a Cavalier most people encouraged me to give up on at 2. We figured it out, and she led a vibrantly healthy life until, at 13-1/2, we met hemangiosarcoma. It was not the end I was expecting.

Now, those who dismiss the personal in Kerasote’s books are forgetting that ideas and facts without heart and intelligence are how we got into the mess we’re living now with our companion animals. Kerasote’s anguish over his choices, his delight in his dog, their adventures in living, convince us that he isn’t just nerdy—he has heart, and that means he has real purpose. His research comes to life when he brings it home to show us how he searched for, and raises, Pukka. He’s a man in love with his dog and not ashamed to admit it. His choice between shelter and breeding, his well-reasoned decisions about spay/neuter, food, vaccinations, toys, exercise (yes, Merle’s real door makes me crazy, but I understand it in places like Wyoming), all come together in a book as compelling and important as Goldstein’s The Nature of Animal Healing, Schoen’s Kindred Spirits, Frost’s Beyond Obedience, and Clothier’s Bones Would Rain from the Sky.

Without heart the facts make no difference. He’s smart, educated, passionate, and clear about what it takes to create healthy dogs. Unfortunately, it’s what it takes to live with dogs in our complex world, and why we’re losing them.

Kerasote is clear about what he thinks, and why. He appears to be someone who can be a leader in the tough business of having quiet, serious, painful conversations about how we will get our dogs healthy and long-lived. About what is, and is not, working in our lives with dogs.

Kerasote is living the human-animal bond. There is no higher compliment, but it’s not enough.

I used to think that love alone could bring all of us together to save our dogs—the vets, shelters, breeders, suppliers, families. But I was wrong.

People criticized me for buying a purebred dog, and when she developed health problems, they swore it was breeding that caused them.

Photo 7 - Alki and GraceIt wasn’t. It was me listening to crappy vets—me being away from dogs for a dozen years and overwhelmed by the new world of animal care. It was me agreeing to bad food, repeated vaccinations, paternal dogma, and early spay/neuter.

It was confusion over repeated illnesses that made no sense to me that finally woke me up. It was vets saying it was routine for dogs to take multiple antibiotics before they were 2, and my horror at their complacency, that made me dig deep for better answers.

It was me deciding to figure it out on my own, firing half the vets in Seattle, and turning to research, and Goldstein, and Dodds, and alternative vets and home-cooked meals. I already had the green home.

Now I think that everything I did might have made no difference because I, too, was the one who believed them when they said early spay/neuter made animals healthier, that waiting until they were sexually mature was too risky.

And I was the one who said goodbye to my beloved when her spleen ruptured from hemangiosarcoma. You said it in your book, Ted: “spayed females have been found to have five times the risk of intact females for developing  hemangiosarcoma.” Did Murphy get cancer because I spayed her early? It’s possible: there were no other risk factors, none. Even if there were, because it’s possible, the practice is wrong—cruel, heartless, stupid.

So now what?

Here’s the problem: the average person just wants to have a happy life with their dogs, but it’s increasingly difficult to do that. What Kerasote and I have done to create healthy lives for our dogs isn’t just intellectually challenging—it’s time-consuming, expensive, frustrating, and terrifying (if you don’t think that, you have never seen a cancer ward). It’s more than the average person can do, more than they should have to do. Why? Partly because we live in a complex world, and everything that makes it easier can be suspect, from food to toys, as Kerasote so vividly demonstrates.

But also because of agendas, and those we can do something about.

So let me tell you a story.

In the last year, I have quietly and earnestly talked to people about early spay/neuter and their animals.

I am very aware that I have two ticking time bombs in my house: my Cavalier boy, Alki, and Grace the Cat. I shudder when I think of their potential future, one they wouldn’t have had to face if I had known better. Well, people say, they could still get cancer from a number of things, including bad luck. But why add a risk factor to the mix? Why not trust people with the facts, let them decide what is best for their animal families before they become animal families?

I spayed and neutered my kids because I thought that it would make them healthier. The dogs were from breeders, the cat was through a local rescue group. None of my kids came from a place that forced me to do early spay/neuter or thought so poorly of me they mutilated my animals before they trusted me with them. In fact, both the breeders were there for me in Murphy’s last weeks: when has a shelter representative sat with anyone in a cancer ward?

The truth is, they don’t care. Here’s the proof.

The Fritz FamilyRemember those conversations I’ve had with people in the last year? I quietly explain to them that I lost my oldest dog to cancer. Their eyes fill up, they express condolences, and then I quietly say, “Did you know that cancer is linked to early spay/neuter?”

They look at me, then reach down and wrap their arms protectively around their dogs, horror and fear and tears in their eyes. It dawns on them, you can see the confusion. They say, “But we’re supposed to do that to reduce overpopulation.”

“I bought that, too,” I say. “But has your animal ever been unsupervised? Does that even make sense? Don’t we all take care of our animals?”

They stop, then, sobered. Which allows me to mention the other things that can come from early spay/neuter: obesity, thyroid disease, hip dysplasia, arthritis, incontinence, behavior problems, cognitive issues. They ask questions, I answer them, as best I can.

One man looked at his gorgeous golden retriever and insisted he neutered him for his behavior issues, then, with a frown, said: “Cancer.”

Yes, cancer is a huge issue for goldens; Murphy lost two golden friends from the same family in her long life. I could see this man thinking about his decision. “Well,” he said quietly. “I could’ve done better training.”

Exactly.

So here’s the thing: every single person—well, everyone who was not in the animal welfare business, but a regular person like me, and Ted, and probably you—every one of those I’ve had this conversation with has left saddened and wiser. I hear back from them: how they’ve told their friends, who are now making different choices, ones that fit their animals and not politics.

The revolution has started.

But there are others. One day I talked with a well-known, highly regarded behaviorist, who glanced away when I said I’d lost Murphy to cancer, that she had no other risk factors but early spay/neuter, that all the things I’d questioned about it years ago turned out to be true. The vets, the shelters, they’re wrong.

Get ready to scream.

The behaviorist couldn’t look me in the eye. Instead, she straightened and said, “Your dog was old enough. There’s a larger purpose.”

Yes, she really said that.

And the purpose? Reducing pet overpopulation. Well, that’s a long conversation, and as Kerasote points out, as I well know, it’s involved.

But the truth is, what we’ve done for 40 years hasn’t worked. It’s complex, as Kerasote demonstrates in a discussion of American poverty and animals (and here I thought it was partly our easy culture), and it’s mindset, as he shows with European pets. It’s also the odd American stereotype that people who ‘rescue’ are heroes, including those who dump their unsold mixed-breed puppies at the shelter, or the shelter administrators who claim there aren’t real ‘breeders,’ encouraging people to buy a shelter dog for $250 – $350, mutilation included.

Welcome to the new puppy mill—your local shelter or rescue organization, and those big name ones we’re supposed to worship. 

This is a huge discussion, one that needs to move beyond bitterness and divisiveness to claim love as its heart and soul. Love for ourselves and for our animals and for those who go unclaimed. What we know is that 50% of our dogs over 10 get cancer, that cancer is an epidemic in our country and no one will admit why or knows all the answers (even me), that millions of our animals suffer from chronic diseases that reduce their quality of life and are linked to early spay/neuter, that people get weepy because they want a pet but can’t afford  veterinary care. I see this, I hear this, and I am saying: it’s past time to change direction.

Early spay/neuter is stupid. Cruel. Wrong. It’s politics and brainwashing and ‘father knows best’ and it’s time to stop it.

Remember the behaviorist? Remember what she said, without being able to look me in the eye?

My dog was old enough.

There’s a larger purpose.

Well, a hundred million years would not have been long enough with the dog I claim as soul mate.

Hatred is not a larger purpose. I ask you: why are we trusting these people?

So here’s what I say, to Kerasote, to all of us. Ted, you were brave enough to call for people to vote with their dollars and quit buying hazardous toys and supplies. But you failed to call for an end to early spay/neuter and the system that supports it. Tubal ligation and vasectomy—interesting. Chemical castration: sorry, I’m green, and so are you, and we’re supposed to be eliminating chemicals in our kids, not adding them.

And you’re wrong when you say we can’t change public opinion. I’m already doing that, in my small way, without the audience you have. And we can change the system, the mandatory laws, the spay/neuter mindset that has lobotomized the animal welfare movement.

It’s easy. We’re Americans. We vote with our dollars.

We simply shut them down. I tell people not to go to a shelter or rescue organization that takes this choice away from them and their vet. Not to buy from a pet supply store, or a food manufacturer, or use a trainer, or behaviorist, or animal communicator, or vet who is still spouting that same old nonsense. Don’t give them your business.  Tell them why.

Just say no. To Best Friends, to the Humane Society. Don’t give them your money, your heart, your trust. Shut them down.

Will we make enemies. Yep. Will it matter? Absolutely. Will animals die in the meantime, before they change? They already are dying. Ask Ted to tell you about Merle. Ask me about Murphy. Read even one of the heartbreaking emails I’ve received in the last year as people search for answers to canine cancer and find my blog about Murphy, especially the entry on our visit to the veterinary surgeon. Remember that Kerasote wrote this book in part because real people who love dogs wanted to know why they were losing them too soon.

Money counts when love is blocked, and money will talk here.

We’ll shut these people and their agencies all down, and quickly, dare I hope in less than a year? We’ll shut down all those systems that have become the new, cruel, terrifying puppy mills. And build real loving humane organizations from what’s left.

Murphy 7-16-1998 - 3-8-2012Love will lead the way.

I know that Murphy’s won’t be the last face of canine cancer. But perhaps hers will be the beginning of the end.

Ted, you have the platform. Use it. Take these groups off your website. Support yourself—the love and smarts you’ve demonstrated in your wonderful book.

And to everybody else out there: buy Kerasote’s book. Read it. Go back to it. Live it. It matters. He matters. And when he wakes up and takes on that last bit of cruelty and insanity, our animal families will thank him for it.

As we vote with our dollars.

Now, here’s my thanks for a beautiful moment in the book, where Kerasote says that he was determined to make his last days with Merle wonderful by “unwrapping each day as if it were a gift.” That’s what I’m doing now, when I tell people about Murphy, when I work in my intuitive practice. Each day with our beloveds is a gift. Value it, value them. Find the right people to help. Ted, you’ve helped, you are a gift. Thank you.

In memory of Murphy Brown Fritz
July 16, 1998 – March 8, 2012

© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

Getting Well with a Little Help from My Friends

waiting for cookies 6-13Our animal families matter, and so do our kids. Here is Alki, recovering from a severe illness, if you ever recover from inflammatory bowel disease and pancreatitis, let alone long-term kidney disease. We remember that age doesn’t always bring illness, but when it does it also reminds us that we have lived a long life, and we’re still determined to make it a fun one! Here’s Alki reminding Grace that this is HIS get well card, and then wondering why he can’t eat it. Shyness is cute! Thank you to Cyndi O-neill Dady and SendOut Cards!

It’s nice to know that people and businesses care about just plain being nice.

 

Animal Communication, Sick Animals, Vets, and Doing Your Job

Grace the CatYes, we can all tell when one of our animal companions is unwell. They act ‘off’ just like we do, from exhibiting actual pain to being depressed. As an animal communicator, I can also look at animals intuitively and see health issues. When I do this I explain to the people involved exactly what I see and what the animals say and insist they take their animal to a trusted veterinarian to investigate.

If I tell you to do that, listen. And make sure your vet does. In this particular story, I’ve always suspected that the vet didn’t really listen.

I think claircognizance is the hardest intuitive skill to work with. Clairvoyance helps you see, clairaudience helps you hear, clairsentience helps you feel. With claircognizance you often just know something. It takes time to develop this skill, to separate what you see from your imagination; eventually you can feel the difference while asking for guidance to trust it. No one is always right in anything, but it is a start.

There are vets out there who will listen to you and to intuitive communicators. The whole point is pooling resources: vets who believe in the power of the human-animal bond will listen and investigate your concerns, whether it comes from you through direct observation or from someone like me through animal communication.

Vets who are hung up on being the boss and won’t listen aren’t worth going to in the first place. There are, unfortunately, a lot of those.

Smokey: An Aging, Sick Cat

Smokey was an aging cat with a dental problem who needed surgery; a powerful Reiki healer himself, he lived with a friend who is a wonderful, dedicated Reiki master and shamanic practitioner.

The day I talked with Smokey I wasn’t actually trying to: I was working on my computer when he came to me. A quick look and claircognizance showed that he had a cancerous mass between his eyes that had spread to his jaw: it was advanced, and he had at most a month to live. I felt terrible, but I knew I had to give my friend this information. She was devastated, of course, and listened when I urged her to insist the vet do an X-ray to confirm the cancer before doing the dental surgery, so she would have all their options before them. I made it very clear: Smokey didn’t have much time, and since they did not suspect cancer, only an infected jaw, an X-ray would help them decide if the surgery was even in Smokey’s best interests. That was her decision and Smokey’s, and the vet could use the science to give them the information they needed to determine that.

She instructed the vet to do an X-ray. Unfortunately, I was correct: it confirmed the cancer. However, the vet went ahead and operated without consulting my friend. He removed some of the cancerous mass along with the teeth. Yes, it gave this wonderful family a few more months together, as removing some of the mass bought more time than the initial month I saw. It was time they used to say goodbye with grace and love. However, the vet was entirely out of line, both unethical and unprofessional, in not giving my friend the information before he operated, so she could have made a more informed choice. It wasn’t his decision.

Would she have made a different choice? I don’t know. But I do know she would have had more information.

When I was driving my friend and Smokey home from the vet after the surgery, my friend asked me if I’d ever considered working as a professional animal communicator.

“You’re really good,” she said.

Over a year later I decided I was ready. Why? Because I am good at it, yes, and I now teach intuitive communication, including animal communication. But mostly because beings come to me, like Smokey the cat, and if things like that happen, you do the work.

It’s called stepping up to do the work. Sometimes it hurts, but it’s always worthwhile.

What would you do if you were an animal communicator and you were told something like this?

© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

Video on Tools for Space Clearing

space clearing setupWhat tools do you use for space clearing? Well, I really think of them as partners in my work, but it takes time to get people to think of everything as an equal and partner, no matter what it is. So when you gather equipment to use in a clearing, ask yourself why you are doing a clearing, and what you want to achieve. Then invite your ‘tools’ to join you. Find out what they can include. Special thanks to photographer/filmmaker Rhonda Hanley for photography and video!

 

 

 

 

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© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

 

 

 

The Gift of Grace: An Unexpected Lesson

LettuceIn January my cousins gave me a birthday gift: a $50 gift certificate for the Seattle Farmers Market. It was a carefully selected gift. They knew  that I’ve shopped at the West Seattle Farmers Market for years, take friends there, and encourage others to go.

For me it’s also a bit retro: I grew up in a small town, and buying produce and meats from your neighbors was simply what you did. Good business for them. Good food for you.

So I was taken aback yesterday when I cashed in my gift certificate at the market booth and then tried to spend my $5 tokens around the market.

Turns out, the farmers don’t really understand the tokens. Plus (or perhaps I should honestly say, worse) the tokens are also given in exchange for food stamps, and that is apparently all they are really known for by the farmers. I have to admit, when the booth attendant told me that, I hesitated.

We are all proud: this is a fact of life. We aren’t proud about being proud, but we are, anyway. I am not the only one who looks the other way when the person in front of me at the grocery store hands over food coupons instead of money. First of all, it’s none of my business. Second, it’s sad that someone needs to rely on food stamps: I’m glad food stamps are there and I hope to never be in the position to need them. Third, I always just figured people were embarrassed by needing the coupons, and, of course, it might be contagious.

Sound human? (You know it is.)

So when I was handed the tokens and told that, I thought, ‘Wow, this might be a lesson I’m not in the mood for today.’ Sadly, it was.

One farmer tried to refuse the tokens, and then argued with me about giving me change for one. Granted, the market’s organizers have done a poor job of informing the farmers that the tokens are real money: at the end of the day, they turn in each $5 token for $5 cash. But this particular farmer took one look at the token and glanced at me with a look that combined both contempt for me and superiority for her. I started to explain it was a gift, not a food stamp, and then I thought, really, this is my lesson, too, and shut up.

Well, almost. I looked this farmer in the eye and said, “Give me back the token and I’ll give you real money.” Startled, she hesitated, kept it, and gave me change. While blushing.

I owed the second farmer $17, and gave him three tokens and change (I catch on eventually). He did a double-take when he saw the tokens, wouldn’t meet my eyes after that, and hustled me off.

The third farmer was someone I personally like, even though we don’t know each other’s name. She remembers what I like and even brings a few items just for me (okay, probably a few other people, too) when she doesn’t have enough of it ready to sell in quantity. While she took the tokens in stride, I felt compelled to mention that they were a gift, so boo on me.

That was my lesson yesterday. I had to laugh about it later. I’d just spent a fortune on veterinary care for my aging, ill dog, and like most of us these days, I was feeling the pinch. But what pinched me here was attitude, and not just the farmers’.

We don’t survive as a species, let alone a culture, unless we reach out to take care of each other. Food stamps are one way we do that in our system while keeping our hands clean and our hearts inactivated: we can do good without going to any real effort, including feeling it.

Yesterday I had to feel it. Joy because I feel rich every Sunday when my fridge is stocked with life-giving food. Surprise (and embarrassment) at how I felt when I realized someone might think I was using food stamps (which, I discovered, makes you feel inadequate on many levels that count far more than the financial). Shame for even thinking that. Humor at being human. Satisfaction in rising above my own, well, pettiness.

And, really, gratitude for a perfect gift from people who truly love me: the food, yes, but the unexpected gift of compassion for all of us who are just trying to get by, and somehow manage to do it together. Even when it hurts.

Yes, I’ll call it like it was: an unexpected gift of grace, obviously needed, and, ultimately, well received.

So how would you feel in that situation? And why?

© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

 

Saying Goodbye to a Neighborhood Institution

Dick and Andy BarnecutBarnecut’s Shell has been in West Seattle a whole lot longer than I have, but even that’s a long time. Dick Barnecut and his son, Andy, have been taking care of my cars since I moved to West Seattle in 1988. But on July 1, 2013, they will be closing their doors forever.

The economy has hit hard. Sometimes it’s all statistics, grim reports on the news, or stories from a different place. We’ve seen a lot of places close in West Seattle over the years, many as hard times hit in 2008. But sometimes it’s somebody we know.

What happens? The big box store down the street undercuts prices, and still we shop there. The owners get tired or simply get to retire and kick back. Or some combination thereof. Sometimes it’s hard times, sometimes it’s just time, but the end result is the same: we’re losing a family business.

Here’s what I know. I’m going to miss Barnecut’s. I’m going to miss getting gas and checkups where they know my name and I know theirs.

Here’s something else I know. I was fortunate enough to spot Andy at the station on my way home yesterday, and even though I only needed a quarter tank, I pulled in to fill up and get the chance to say goodbye.

As luck would have it, the best thing happened, because Dick was there, too. Now Dick’s been retired a long time, so you hardly get to see him. But I got a chance to hug them both, to thank them for taking care of me and West Seattle all these years, for being good people and neighbors.

I’m going to miss that. I was born and raised in a small town, and I ran to the big city to get away from that. But truth is, the small town girl is still in there, still wanting to do business and be friends with my neighbors. Still kind of missing that tie.

My dad was a pharmacist and gift shop owner in Stayton, Oregon, and I had the privilege of working with him in his store from the time I was 12 until I graduated from college. I learned a lot about business from my dad. How to count change. How to smile and be polite. How to work even when I was tired. How to wrap a gift.

How to be a good neighbor. My dad took care of people in ways I saw only because I was there. He never talked about it. He just did it. Helped a young man whose wife was dying. Gave money to a man in need. Took care of his family.

I was telling Dick and Andy Barnecut a bit about my dad yesterday. How proud I was of him, and them, for being good neighbors first and foremost.

“Yeah, my dad’s like that,” Andy said, smiling at Dick.

Yes, I remember the time I was on my way to the dentist and had a flat tire. Andy drove down to my condo and filled the tire so I could drive up to the station. Dick was waiting. He took the tire off, patched it, put it back on, and I jumped in the car, saying, “Thanks, Dick, I’ll be back to pay for it later.”

He just laughed as I drove off. And laughed again when I stopped by later that day to pay (interest free, unlike every bank you know).

I’ll miss the service. I’ll miss them. But I’m grateful that they were there all those years when I needed them. When West Seattle needed them.

Happy adventures, Dick and Andy!

© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

Our Space Clearing Interview with Rachel Belle, on ‘Ring My Belle,’ KIRO Radio, Seattle

Interview with Rachel Belle, Ring My Belle Radio Segment, Seattle, June 2013Fallon and I had a wonderful team meeting with Rachel Belle, a Seattle journalist who has a segment, “Ring My Belle,” on the ‘Don and Ron Show’ on KIRO Radio, 97.3 FM, in Seattle.

Rachel contacted us because she’d seen an article in the “New York Times” about space clearing. She asked us to conduct a mini-clearing of her Seattle apartment and recorded it for her radio show.

“Home Energy Cleansing: The Crystal Ball That Does Windows” is the result.

I found Rachel to be smart, curious, and funny, all excellent qualities in a reporter. She was unfamiliar with space clearing, which a lot of people are, and part of our session was explaining that it does not mean we dust or vacuum!

Space clearing cleanses the vibrations of a space. That means as we go about our day we leave bits and pieces of our emotions, feelings, and experiences behind us in the places we visit, in particular our home and business spaces.

Our space clearing service operates differently than others as well. I believe in creating partnerships between people and their spaces, to mesh the needs of both sides. That is because I believe that everything is alive, has a soul, consciousness, responsibility, free choice, and an attitude. I have discovered in my work and in my personal life that living as an equal with all life adds depth and richness plus an easy, comfortable, almost mystical connection with the things around me, whatever they are. We need an edge in our lives, a way to be enriched and nurtured as we deal with daily stresses, and space clearing does that.

Before Fallon and I do a space clearing we find out what the people need and want in the space, whether it’s real estate buy/sell, a feeling of being stuck, team building at work, or simply a refreshing change. Then I go and ask the space what it needs and wants, and come back to the people with what I learn. This often results in amazing interactions with people and their spaces—from offers to support creativity to re-energized people and spaces.

Homes are particularly emotional beings. Why? Because their job is to support and nourish us (and, I’ve discovered, they take their job very seriously). Rachel’s situation was interesting. Her home was quite clear for a 100-year-old building, but it was jealous of her work space, which she felt was getting all her attention. Rachel was interested in boosting her creativity at home with art projects, and we talked about defining spaces in a home. Part of my job with clients is to help them define areas in their home that are dedicated for certain activities, from bedrooms that are just for rest, to even a small space dedicated to creative projects.

People can hire us to clear their spaces for them, and to teach them how to do it for themselves.

Do you use space clearing at home and work? What are you results?

A big thank you to Rachel Belle for the interview. She was a lot of fun, we had fun, and her work and home spaces got her attention. It’s an awesome world!

© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

 

Sunset, Alki Beach, Seattle, 6-22-13

The perfect ending to a perfect day: enjoying sunset at Alki Beach in Seattle with my dog, Alki.

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Nature Checks In – Really!

Sometimes you just have to take that picture! Here is nature checking in on solstice, June 2013.

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