As my beloved dog, Murphy, and I walked the mystery together—her dying and her death—I marveled at how much my life had changed in the nearly 14 years we shared.
I used to think people like I am today were impossibly woo-wooey. Were crystal-loving, freakily dressed hippies who believed in weird mystical things, like reincarnation and talking to dead people and being psychic.
Then I became one of those people.
Thank goodness.
In the years Murphy and I were together I stumbled upon animal communication and experimented on Murphy. I learned that there was more going on in an animal’s mind than I ever realized. And I put that knowledge to good use: I learned to talk with other beings, and now I do that for a living.
And when push comes to shove, I hire other people to talk to other beings for me. I call those people intuitives. They call themselves animal communicators, or intuitives, or psychics, or mediums.
The real ones are worth more than their weight in gold.
The one I know the best, and trust from long years of working with her, is Debrae FireHawk.
When you work as an intuitive you’re always dealing with people looking at you the way I used to look at people like me: like they just don’t get us and find us weird, out-of-touch, and maybe just a bit scary. So it’s great to hire an intuitive and find out what they say is going on with you, or around you. To be accepted for who and what you are and tap into their unique strength—because just like doctors or carpenters, each intuitive has a special way of doing their work.
Which is a long way of saying I’m comfortable with Debrae. I trust her. She’s excellent at her work. She has a loving, open heart. And she’s funny.
It was a no-brainer for me to turn to her for support as Murphy journeyed toward death.
Here’s why you should trust an intuitive when you’re on that journey (if not before).
By choice, determination, and innate talent, intuitives can help us get outside the trappings of modern civilization and into our hearts and souls. Then can help us see and understand things we don’t see as well on our own—because they’ve developed their skill, like we’ve developed our own, whatever our skill is.
They can help us see the living world around us on its own level—without the arrogant bullshit of modern science, with the humility of knowing our place as equals with all life, whatever that life is. As humans in a world that is bigger and stranger than anything we could imagine or want.
It’s wonderful to work with an intuitive for any life event, from personal to business situations.
When your soul mate is dying, it’s not just wonderful: it’s necessary.
Losing a loved one, whether human or animal, is painful and confusing and exhausting. You can and must be rational, and organized, and sometimes shut off from your feelings so you can function. You can and must grieve your dying loved one.
It helps if you can talk with them. And share your feelings. And hear theirs.
With an intuitive, you can.
Debrae helped me talk with Murphy, in the weeks before she died and in the days afterwards. It allowed me to step back and be not just the client but the grieving soul mate who needed to understand and share this last journey, to make careful decisions, to explore the mystery of death. To cry.
It allowed me and Murphy to hear each other, to share our deepest fears and secret thoughts, to wrap love around us more securely and deeply than would have ever been possible if we could not hear each other.
I have lost many loved ones over the years. This is the first one I lost that I could talk to about the process mind to mind, heart to heart. And have another human there to hear it correctly, clearly. With compassion, warmth, and humility.
To be there for me, and for Murphy, as we decided how we would make this last journey together. As we said goodbye.
Yes, you can say goodbye to a dying animal companion without an intuitive by your side.
But don’t.
You’ll miss the opportunity to learn what your animal wants in its last days: how it wants it to look, and why.
You’ll miss the chance to tell it what is going on, and why.
You’ll miss the chance to grieve together, to say the things we would say to a human who could hear and understand and tell us what they’re feeling.
You’ll miss the chance to say goodbye on a level so intensely personal it will brighten all the days of your life, and your family’s.
You’ll miss some of the mystery of life, some of the grace and glory of being fully present in your life, and in the life of those you love.
And your animals will miss that with you.
When we love animals, we know that our life with them will probably end much sooner than it does with other humans. It makes us wonder why we continue to open ourselves to the pain of loss by bringing other animals into our lives. To lose.
When you work with an intuitive, you’ll know why you do it—because love is worth it.
And you’ll be able to hear your animal tell you the same thing.
Love is worth it.
Hear it for yourself.
© 2012 Robyn M Fritz