February 26, 2025

The First Step to a Successful Holistic Business: Space Clearing, Part 3

lavenderPart 3 of 3, first published in NatPath

In the last of a three-part series on space clearing for businesses, I’m going to walk you through an actual clearing. While this is directed to your business, you can also adapt this ritual for your homes.

In Part 1 we discussed what space clearing is—the energetic equivalent of vacuuming and dusting a space. Used regularly, space clearing will keep energy flowing smoothly in your space, supporting you, your staff, your clients, and the space itself as you build on a healthy, balanced place for your business to thrive in.

Your first step was to establish an energetic baseline by using your five senses and your intuition to evaluate each room in your business. Note what is working, what isn’t, and what is neutral.

Your second step was to determine what you need and want from the space by working through exactly what needs to happen in the space to support everyone. Then you list 3-4 specific things you want from that space. Decide how it would feel if the space were ideal for all concerned, what it takes to get that way, what your general intent is.

Then comes the part most space clearing professionals forget—that is, asking the space what it needs and wants from you, your staff, and your clients. Yes, the space. Why? Because whether we realize it or not, everything is alive, including your business space. Asking what it needs and wants and negotiating change is crucial to clearing the space—and helping your business thrive.

And that’s where we’re at in this article.

Conducting the Actual Space Clearing

So, the day for the space clearing has arrived. Ideally you are doing this outside of normal business hours, so you can concentrate on the task at hand. Or you’ve arranged for a few hours in the day when clients aren’t present if you’ve hired a professional (which I’d suggest, and not just because I am one, but because a professional offers the experience to deal with tricky situations and the neutrality to balance concerns and demands).

If staff are present, brief them on what’s going to happen, and even invite them to participate. Some will join in out of curiosity, others will not, their choice, of course.

First step: gather your space clearing tools. These include:

  • Incense for clearing: it can be something like sage (not my favorite), copal (one of the best), sandalwood, nag champa (another favorite). Some people are sensitive to fragrances or smoke; if that’s the case, there are clearing sprays out there that are unscented that also work. You can also create your own clearing spray by soaking a quartz crystal in water for a few hours, and using that water. Experiment.
  • Candles: smokeless candles or even the kind with batteries offer a nice ceremonial touch.
  • Flowers: lavender is a good clearing flower. However, try buying or gathering a bouquet from your garden. As you gather the flowers, concentrate on your business space, and “choose” what feels right to you (yes, this is using your intuition).
  • Pictures, crystals, objects that mean something to you, your staff, and the space: You can set up a space clearing “altar” for these objects (including candles and flowers). They help set the mood and carry the energy for the clearing. And can remain set up afterwards as a reminder of the clearing.
  • Sea salt: I love Himalayan sea salt, but any salt will do. Prepare to sprinkle it in the space or set a small amount in a bowl in each room. You can put water in each bowl if you’d like.
  • A bell: I use a small bronze Tibetan singing bowl. Use anything that offers a clear tone.

Second step: gather your notes. You’ve made notes on what you want from the space and the clearing, and questions for the space.

Third step: open the space clearing session. Gather all the participants, light the candles, and state your intention for the clearing.

Fourth step: open negotiations with your space. Granted, this is easier with a space clearing professional who can more easily connect directly with the space, but don’t be afraid to try this on your own. It can take getting really quiet, and allowing the connection with the space to occur however your intuition most strongly works. For example, we are all a combination of intuitive seeing, hearing, feeling, and knowing, but most of us are stronger at one of these skills. Use yours.

If you intuitively see well, look around: what do you notice about the space? If you intuitively hear, ask it to tell you what it needs. If you intuitively feel, how does the space feel to you? If you intuitively know, take the first hit that tells you something about the space, it’s usually the answer.

Granted, most people skip this step, because they have a hard time thinking a space can communicate with them. Don’t be that way. Over time you will become very familiar with how your space responds to the people in it, and your business will improve—I know, I’ve seen it over and over. I tell people: be comfortable with weird! It gets you places!

Opening negotiations includes decision-making. At some point, you will decide what the clearing will involve. Yes, you eliminate stuck energy so the business can run smoothly. Take what you learned from your wish list, and your space’s, and include that in the clearing. After telling the space (and the people involved) what those solutions are, you can proceed with the clearing.

Fifth step: conduct the actual space clearing. Proceed to clear the space. Using the incense or spray, move through each room, making sure your intention for clearing and the smoke/spray spread throughout the space, especially in the corners. You can “sweep” the spray with feathers or simply your hands, and invite the space to clear. Pay particular attention to the space: what do you notice? If the room still feels “stuck” after you clear it, go over it again.

After each room is cleared, put a small bowl of sea salt in it. You can put water in the bowl if you’d like. Change the sea salt/water daily for the next week. It helps to continue the clearing, and it reminds people that a clearing was conducted.

Once the entire space is cleared, go back over it again with your bell. This helps remind the participants, both people and the space, that a cleaingr has occurred. It will also let you know if you missed something—when I use my Tibetan singing bowl, a clear tone tells me the space is clear, but a wobbly tone tells me that the clearing needs a boost. Sometimes ringing the bowl a few times completes it, and sometimes I need to stop, look at what I might have missed, digging a bit deeper to uncover and solve the issue. When the bell finally sounds clear, I know the work is done. So will you.

Sixth step: celebrating the clearing. Space clearing is essential for a healthy business space, but it can also be exhausting, because you are clearing yourself as well as the space. So give yourself a break. Take some time for yourself—drink lots of water, rest, reflect on the experience, get a good night’s sleep. Be sure to thank everyone for participating, and invite them, too, to take some time for themselves.

Your business will thank you for it. So will your staff and clients. Even those who don’t pay attention to their intuition will likely notice that it just feels great coming to your business. Which is great, right?

Try a space clearing for your business. Let me know what you experienced. I always enjoy hearing from people.

© 2016 Robyn M Fritz

Stunned by Grief – Why Souls Do What They Do

Grace the CatIn late May 2003 I was running errands and suddenly detoured to stop at a local pet store and get some dog cookies. They had long fostered cats and kittens from a local cat rescue service, but I was astonished to hear birds chirping, and asked if they were now adopting out birds.

“That’s kittens,” the clerk said, laughing.

That’s when it hit me, that “soul punch” that told me someone in my soul family had arrived. Again. Astonished, I blurted out, “Tweety?” as I turned and saw a tiny black-and-white kitten squeezed into the corner of the cat cage, glaring at me.

Tweety was my bantam chicken soul mate from my childhood. Now back in a kitten body. No doubt about it.

I had a brief chat with the kitten, acknowledging who she was, and wished her a great life, saying my house was full.

The dogs had another idea. As I walked through the door a few minutes later, Murphy and Alki confronted me, demanding to know where their cat sister was.

“You don’t have a cat sister,” I told them. Firmly.

“Yes we do, we saw her,” they insisted.

“You guys need to stay out of my head,” I scolded. Resigned to the inevitable.

And that is how, six hours later, Grace the Cat became part of the family. Things were perfect in my household until March 8, 2012, when Murphy died of cancer. Next in line was Alki dying of heart failure on November 17, 2014. What I somehow never expected was to lose Grace the Cat, but a massive stroke caused by a suspected brain tumor took her on September 21, 2106.

My perfect pack of three is gone. And I am stunned by grief.

We all know grief never ends. Grief hurts—it’s gut-wrenching, soul-testing pain. Grief matters, reminding us that if we didn’t grieve, we would never have lived the wonderful life we did with our animals. Grief is what death looks like in a multi-species family. It reminds us that we love, and love matters. Always and forever.

Still …

It’s hard to say goodbye to a beloved animal. Loving our animals as family members makes the uncertainty and heartache of loss as terrible as it is when we lose humans, and sometimes worse, if family and friends don’t understand and support the human-animal bond. Sadly, there are plenty of those people out there; in fact, many people who come to me for animal communication sessions in the process of losing their beloved animal family members also need grief support from someone who acknowledges their loss as what it is—devastating, debilitating, all but unendurable. Often that, too, for a time.

That’s where I’ve been in these last few weeks. My only comfort, outside of having had a wonderful (and sometimes exasperating) life with the only cat I’ve ever had, is that I know something about how souls come together, and leave again, and, yes, sometimes come back.

Yes, this is a huge subject, so for now, let’s just look at reincarnation and soul purpose.

Reincarnation, Soul Purpose, and Making It Work

The Fritz FamilyContrary to what some religious doctrines say, reincarnation happens. When it crosses species it isn’t inappropriate or a form of punishment, as mindsets that accept reincarnation sometimes imply. It’s simply the form the soul has taken to do its job for that lifetime—and an extremely advanced, old soul like the soul that has inhabited all my dogs, including my year-old son, Ollie, or the soul that became Grace the Cat, can do an awful lot.

Most humans are so focused on ourselves we’ve forgotten that literally everything is alive, has a soul, is equal to us—and has a job to do. For example, these days it’s fashionable, if myopic, for us to regard our animal companions as teachers and healers, as mystical gurus in animal bodies who are here to save us from ourselves (whatever that means). It’s a huge burden to put on anyone, and one animals may try to assume to please us, possibly to their detriment. We forget that families do learn and grow together (or should), which is why they’re families, but we’re all responsible only for ourselves.

But to assume animals are here to serve us is to forget they may have other jobs we may not know about or understand, jobs so huge they’re mind-boggling. A well-known animal communicator once talked about animal jobs at an event, then turned to me and smiled, saying, “Robyn’s animals have cosmic jobs.” Indeed, they do.

More on that in a bit, but first to families, who have soul purposes together while supporting individual purposes.

I learned things from all my animals and continue to. From my English cocker Maggie I learned to treat animals as souls. From my Cavalier King Charles spaniel Murphy I learned to live in a way I never considered, with my soul purpose front and center. From my Cavalier boy, Alki, I learned true love, which is helping me get along with my new Cavalier boy, Oliver (Ollie to all), his amusing, adorable, and rascally new incarnation. From Grace the Cat I have learned to laugh—and to live with an alien life-form, which helped when the real ones showed up. From me my kids learned to fully explore their lives and soul purposes with determination, humor, zest, love—and patience for their less accomplished human.

Could I live, love, and laugh before? Of course. But I learned new things from them, as they did from me, which is what should happen when souls come together again. We learned to live in a multi-species family while we whittled away at the other odd, challenging things we set out to do when we found our way back to each other. And so it continues.

How do you help others achieve their soul purpose, especially when most humans forget them when they’re born? Sometimes we just have to quit trying to explain it and fling ourselves into our lives—and theirs. By finding a way to live love, we free it to work its magic. And the magic happens.

Like with Grace.

My Magical Cat

Photo 7 - Alki and GraceGrace the Cat adored being a house cat (quite a difference from Tweety the chicken, who lived outside and ended up as a weasel’s lunch). Like all my animals, Grace also explored multiple dimensions, working on her own and with me at dimensional portals, which allow different dimensions to interact without blowing things up (an inadequate but necessarily simple explanation). In other times and places she would have been called a “familiar,” but whatever the term, Grace was an energy amplifier. She essentially “upped” the frequency so that I could do part of my work, which is as an ambassador to the earth, working with land and weather systems.

Grace and I did a lot of this work in our early years together. We worked with hurricanes, other weather systems, volcanoes, earthquakes … beings that most people don’t realize are alive. In fact, I’ve learned in my work that everything is alive, everything has a soul, consciousness, responsibility, free choice, and an attitude. Most humans don’t realize this, but we all have an effect on the world around us, which is why I argue against interfering with the work the planet is doing to keep itself stable, from hurricanes to earthquakes.

I’m getting back into discussing this in more detail in upcoming articles. For now, it’s enough to note that living with my animal family in the last eighteen years has deepened my fascination with souls. It’s why my work is about supporting souls, from intuitive to spiritual consulting. It’s why I know about reincarnation, and why I’m so thrilled to offer people multiple ways to tap deep into their souls with past life regression—through hypnotherapy, through intuitive insight, and through shamanic practices.

It’s why Grace went out, well, dramatically.

In our early days together I saw many previous lifetimes with Grace. Sometimes she was human and the dogs and I were cats, sometimes it was just the two of us together, working with the planet. These last years with my two soul mates—with the one soul in two dog bodies at once, and now a third dog body, and the other in a cat body—was a bit of what you’d call “upping the ante,” and not a moment too soon. Because the past lives I remember, including those shared with these remarkably advanced souls, are helping me support today’s advanced and passionate humans, who are trying to understand and live their soul purpose in a time that has forgotten much of what is not only possible, but desperately needed.

People, the world needs you. Now. Not because it needs healing, but because it needs connection. You can find your role in that by looking at your past lives, and at what you chose to do in this one.

Yes, it's true.I learned my work included working with the planet and different dimensions years before I started my current public work. I kept quiet about it for a long time, sharing it with people who quietly showed up for training. I did it when I needed to, and very little of that is public.

Until Grace had her stroke and the goddess showed up.

In more recent years, Grace and I had just played together, enjoying a quiet life. As I tended her those last five days, turning her every two hours, cuddling and feeding and cleaning her, I was glad we’d had a lifetime where we’d done some of our planetary work and a lot of goofing off. It felt good. One night as I cuddled her in bed, I whistled the little tune I called her Pied Piper song, because every time I whistled it she’d come running, even at times when she clearly didn’t want to, but couldn’t shake off the urge. (It was weirdly cute and scary at the same time.) That night, unable to walk or really move much, I whistled the tune and Grace’s face softened, she peered close at me, and reached out her left front leg to me, the only leg she could really control. It’s a picture I hope stays with me for a long time.

And then the goddess showed up.

Grace’s Choice—the Earthquake and the Hurricane

Check for solsticeThis goddess, Con Ni (yes I know her real name, but she likes this one), arrived on Tuesday, September 20, to tell me that Grace and I had one last job to do for the planet before her death, work Grace had already agreed to before Con Ni came to me. A good thing, that, because I’m not as altruistic as you’d think.

I’ll say it again, humans can and do affect planetary forces.

It happens in two ways. The first way is something we all do: if we say we “hate” rain or “hate” hurricanes or whatever, we actually send energy at what we hate and impede it in its work (it’s an energy block). That’s why I tell people to bless a hurricane on its way, or the rainstorm, or even the sunshine. It has work to do that I can explain later, but simply helps the planet maintain itself. We mess things up by interfering.

The other way humans affect planetary forces is if they have the “magic” or “intuitive ability” or whatever you call it to actually change them. Yes, change the course of a hurricane or the force of an earthquake. There aren’t many of these people out there—my guidance forces tell me about 50 planet-wide—and, yes, I’m one of them. Earth events that are affected like this are manipulated by humans. That is bad.

I refuse to do that, for reasons I will explain later, and have in old blog posts. Essentially the planet is conscious and has these things planned or, like us, has accidents, but for the most part it’s a far more complicated system than most people realize. If we change the course of a hurricane it changes the one coming along behind it, and that could be and has been catastrophic, even in our recent past. So mostly I go around and “whack” people who mess with earth events. Yes, I can be ornery, especially in the planet’s defense. (And, yes, people yell at me when I whack them and I don’t care.)

I especially interfere with those who do it on a massive scale, including at another government’s direction (we Americans are really clueless).

I will put myself on the line for that kind of work, and have, but I would never willingly put one of my kids on the line for it. Because it isn’t my choice, and I’m selfish and want them safe.

Which is why the goddess Con Ni went first to Grace. When she came to me she said the last work Grace had to do in her body was her choice, but it would drain her. It was to help me work with a manipulated earthquake directed at the Seattle area in the following two weeks, and would register somewhere between 8.0 and 9.0. This would have crippled the Pacific Northwest economy, not to mention cause widespread suffering and destruction.

Nevertheless I would never have volunteered Grace for this work; not for anything would I have asked her or allowed her to die to prevent the quake. I would have let the earthquake happen if I couldn’t find another way to work with it without endangering her. But Grace refused that option, so we tackled it together. (Yes, I’m selfish, but my work with souls makes me think that “volunteering” others to suffer or die for something, however massive an event, actually makes things worse.)

On our last night together Grace and I worked with the earthquake and dismantled it and the people behind it. For me that involved going into the quake and pulling out “red threads” that were shifting the earth while Grace amplified the energy frequency to support me. I felt pretty confident that it would not come at that magnitude, and it did not. However, since it was already set in motion, disturbed earth forces did result in smaller earthquakes, including one in Japan the next day.

We stopped the earthquake, and the next morning, September 21, Grace looked up at me and said she was done. We spent the day together, and said goodbye that evening.

Grace has been with my dad at his Way Station for Dead Things on the Other Side ever since. She was so drained from her illness and the stroke (and brain tumor) and our work that she slept in the sun for a long time, and is still hanging out on the porch at my dad’s cabin, sunning herself and watching birds.

And Ollie and I are alone together, carving out a new life in our family of two.

But that wasn’t the end of Grace’s story. Because Hurricane Matthew happened.

Hurricane Matthew and Grace the Cat

Cantankerous Dog LoverHurricane Matthew marching through the Caribbean and up the east coast was not a natural hurricane any more than the earthquake Grace and I altered. It had the same red energy threads and the same nasty people forcing it to their will. When I went to work with it, as Grace joined me from the afterlife, I saw that the manipulation would propel it well beyond anything we’ve seen as a Category 5, and it would go far inland.

Now hurricanes are cleansing forces, meant to clear the water and land in their path. They are not evil and not killers, although things do die and become damaged in their path. Hurricanes are the planet’s weather defense system; it is because I talk with hurricanes that I know we are not facing global warming but an ice age.

Hurricane Matthew had a job to do and was being manipulated. After talking with it, Grace amplified energy and I went in and removed the red threads. About twenty minutes later the eyewall started to disintegrate. While I don’t know everything, I assume that it was reverting to what it was created to be, and not what it was forced to be. Still powerful, but not America-eating.

In death, as in life, Grace the Cat served the planet. I am proud of her. It doesn’t make losing her any easier. It simply means that like all souls, her soul chose a body to do specific things. She chose to come here and play, and to team with me to work with the planet.

Soul Purpose

Not all of us have complicated jobs like Grace the Cat, my dogs, or even me. We all have one job—to grow our souls, and to have fun doing it (if we can, I have to admit, my life hasn’t been a lot of fun lately).

The choices animals make when they choose a new soul experience, whether in spirit or in a new body, can offer growth opportunities beyond anything we can conceive. My kids in animal bodies healed past life issues while playing in their animal bodies and accepting jobs that are mind-boggling. Murphy was ambassador to the dragon kingdom—did you even know dragons were real? Because of her, dragons are back in the world again, real physical beings who guard the portals between earth dimensions. Stunning, right? And Alki, the same soul as Murphy, worked with multi-dimensional beings. The same soul, two bodies in the same household at the same time. That soul back again as my year-old dog, Ollie, with the multi-dimensionals waiting in the wings for him to grow up. (Right now he barks at them, which makes me laugh.)

And Grace the Cat, the energy amplifier who died a hero.

So, what is your soul purpose? Where does it take you, and why?

Not all of us are going to do the strange work that I do with the planet. But all of us have jobs to do that are equally important, that only we can do. Sometimes the jobs find us, sometimes we fall over them, sometimes we miss them. But we all have them.

What is yours?

© 2016 Robyn M Fritz

The First Step to a Successful Holistic Business: Space Clearing, Part 2

elements-of-a-clear-spacePart 2 of 3 (first published in NatPath)

In Part 1 of this series on space clearing for businesses I discussed why space clearing should be your first thought for maintaining and growing a successful holistic business. Yes, staffing and client attraction and retention are essential, but without a clear space, you will always be playing catch-up.

I also explained how you can tell if your space needs clearing using all five of your senses and your intuition to determine a baseline for your business space, room by room. This “space inventory” will show you what areas feel perfect, neutral, and or need more attention in a focused space clearing (although the entire space should be cleared regularly).

Again, space clearing is the energetic, or vibrational, equivalent to vacuuming and dusting. Because everything is alive, including our spaces and the objects in them, everything that occurs in and around them spreads out and affects everything else in the vicinity—and goes home with people. Meaning? As we go about our day, little bits of our emotions and experiences spin off us and get left in the spaces we visit (and, yes, stuck on the people who pass through that space, so we pick up others’ “stuff”).

This is how energy gets “stuck,” or doesn’t flow smoothly. You can tell if business is off, or if people are tired or lackluster for no good reason. Space clearing gets the energy flowing smoothly again, acting as the background prop to happy, prosperous lives (and businesses).

This month I’m going to cover the next step in the space clearing process—zeroing in on what you want from the space you work in, from outlining what you need and want, which is how you fix imbalances, to the step most professional space clearing experts (and business owners) don’t consider: learning what the space has to say about itself and the people it encounters.

When You Know You Need Space Clearing

The thing we tend to forget is that nothing stays clear without assistance. That’s why we’re always cleaning house and organizing our desks. Vibrational clearing is actually more intense, because both people and spaces (and the objects in them) are alive and have feelings, and when emotions and thoughts spin off and mingle in a space, they inevitably clash.

Sometimes people are offended at the suggestion of a space clearing, not because they consider it “woo-wooey” (although some do), but because they think it implies that something is wrong with it, and, by extension, them. It doesn’t mean that at all. Change happens, and regular clearings help. Acknowledging change, or even a sudden disruption in your business, with a space clearing helps keep everyone at their best, including the space.

Even if things are great, space clearing can be a beautiful and uplifting ceremony to just have fun with your spaces.

Determining What You Need and Want from Your Business Space

Of course, you can clear your spaces yourself, and I recommend that you develop a regular practice of doing so. It will help you develop rituals that connect you with your spaces and the rhythms of life, especially if you do it monthly or seasonally. It will also help you stay attuned to what your space needs to be its best, which helps you be your best (honest).

There are also many reasons why you’d want a professional to clear your space. Having a neutral, objective outsider can provide insight on staff productivity and vitality; client comfort; remodeling or changing offices; and sudden or ongoing disruption, including trauma and, yes, “ghosts.”

Forming an Intent and Listing Specifics

So, the first thing you do is establish your baseline for clearing, as explained in Part 1. You employ all your senses to discover how your space appears to you: sight, sound, taste, touch, hearing, and intuition. That will provide insight into things you might want to deal with.

Next consider your goals for a clearing. You will do two things:

  • You will determine what you need and want.
  • You will ask what the space needs and wants.

Yes, your space is alive, remember? So you need to ask its opinion (you will probably be surprised). But start by deciding what you need and want in the clearing. What would you like to accomplish? Peace of mind? Relaxation? Creative spark? An inviting business space? A celebration? This is your general intent for a space clearing.

Then list 3-4 specific things you need and want from a space. You want more clients and more money. But what would that look like? How would it feel? What does it take to get that? What would the space look and feel like? And so on.

Write this list down. You will be sharing it with your space and whoever assists in the clearing, especially if it’s a space clearing professional like me.

After you’ve determined what you need and want from the space, you need to get input from the space itself. (Most people can tap their intuition to get some idea of this, but it also helps to bring in someone who talks with spaces for a living.) This is why I call my method of space clearing Space Cooperating—because we are bringing the space itself together with you, the human, to jointly cooperate to negotiating change (clearing) that works for both sides.

Yes, in this step, you ask the space what it needs and wants. Start by sharing the specific things you would you like your space to help you with (your list, carefully prepared ahead of time). Sometimes these things are difficult, because you might be moving from the space.

Then ask the space what it needs and wants from you so that you, and your space, can cooperate so both sides are healthy and balanced. Stunning things happen when people ask their spaces what they need and want. They learn the space’s personality quirks and interests, they hear its thoughts on their work, they get tips on how to get along (both humans and the space), and they get support for their creativity.

I had one small houseboat volunteer its walls, ceiling, and floors as a canvas for its new owner’s art. The closeness that developed between them still makes me smile. The bonus? The owner’s business also soared. In a clearing for a technology firm, I had each person tap into their space, and they soon vied to make their partnership soar. A large conference room was unused, and the staff was not cohesive, so I suggested they focus a group activity in it: they ended up using the gigantic conference table to create a holiday gingerbread village, an act that both gave back to the community and delighted the team, which learned to put the fun back into their jobs.

Once you get answers from the space about what it needs and wants, set aside time to collaborate with it. Compromise (cooperation) is essential: none of us get 100% what we want or even need. If what a space wants is impossible, explain why, and offer alternatives. This is simply keeping a clear channel of communication between you and your space, which will help keep the energy flowing.

Once questions and issues are addressed, a formal clearing is in order (energy healing), which I’ll discuss next month. But please take this two-way discussion seriously, and monitor your business on a regular basis. Once you learn to use your intuition to be aware of what your space needs, you’ll stay ahead of clearing issues, and you’ll have one less difficulty in maintaining a successful business.

Very often asking a space what it thinks helps spur your own development, from expanding your personal and professional life to a soaring creative one. Spaces are our intimate partners, and the relationship and team-building that comes from sharing insights and desires creates a closeness that nurtures both sides.

It matters. You matter. Your spaces matter. Tell them what you need and want. Ask them what they need and want. Great things happen.

Spaces get clear. And so do you.

In Part 3 of this series, (September) we’ll cover the space clearing itself, from a big initial clearing to daily maintenance.

In the meantime, try the steps outlined above. What do you need and want from your space? What does your space need and want from you? You’ll be ready to mesh the needs and wants of both sides in the clearing ritual I’ll outline for you.

© 2016 Robyn M Fritz

Saying Goodbye: When Our Animal Families Die

AlkiThis week I had one of those “double-edged sword” days in my work. When I ask myself why I do what I do, and know I wouldn’t do anything else.

On an almost daily basis I place myself squarely in the face of grief and loss. No, I’m not a minister or health care provider: I’m an intuitive and spiritual consultant, and right now I’m talking about animal communication.

Early in the morning I had a phone call. The woman had barely started to talk, asking those polite things we do, “I emailed, but I decided to call, too,” when I heard it in her voice: death was knocking at her door.

 Turns out, she and her husband lived with an aged Alaskan malamute, and, while the dog had been up and down all year, it seemed like down was permanent. She asked me to talk with her dog and find out: are you ready to go, is it time, do you want help, what can I do for you?

Sometimes these calls fall into the “emergency” category, as this one did. So the appointment isn’t scheduled, it’s on top of me, with no time to prepare and a serious issue to confront. What I learned and conveyed would make a difference to these two soul mates—a woman and a dog who loved each other.

Yes, there are many intuitives who won’t take these calls, whether it’s an ill or dying animal or a lost one. The pressure is intense and can be debilitating without a lot of self-awareness, self-care, and boundaries. It’s taken me a lot of time to learn this, as both a woman in a patriarchal culture and an intuitive in a skeptical one, so I took a deep breath and did what I had to do: I asked some questions to clarify the situation, and said I’d talk with the dog and call the woman back in an hour. And then I had a quick breakfast, to get myself ready for the day, and spent some time quietly chatting with the dog, who I’ll call Clem, while energetically scanning her body to get as much information as possible.

Clem fell into the “I could go or I could stay” category. She was clearly dying: she wasn’t in any pain, but old age was slowly claiming her as her body was shutting down. She felt she could die on her own, but would like some help, and “now today” worked for her. Or she could simply “walk the mystery,” as my beloved dog, Murphy, did, as she explored the dying process with me by her side, if her person didn’t want the pressure of choosing euthanasia.

As someone who loves my animal family, I can honestly say that “now today” is something you never want to hear. I can also say that I’ve honored my family’s wishes, and, with clients, I carefully explain the options. Those who are truly living the human-animal bond seriously consider their animal’s wishes. Because love matters.

Turns out, the woman wasn’t surprised by this. She had watched her dog slowly wind down for some months, and intuitively felt the time was ready. Her dog simply confirmed it, while also giving the woman the final choice: she could help her dog out that day, or she could stick with her until she died on her own or until she started to suffer.

The woman was both saddened and relieved to hear this. Knowing her dog wasn’t suffering gave her some time. I suggested that she not make an immediate decision, but simply spend the day with her dog, even make a ritual of the dying process. Our culture today tends to ignore death, but by recognizing and honoring it, we can bring beauty, comfort, and closure to a relationship, which helps in the moment and later, when only ashes remain.

I checked in with her later that day. By then it was clear to her that her dog was more than ready, there was no more doubt that it was time, and they’d had a beautiful last day together. Because I work with my dad, who’s in the afterlife and cares for the newly transitioned (another story, another time), I could monitor the process and know when Clem died and moved on.

The next day I was deeply touched to receive an email from my client saying that she’d “felt my love” all day. Yes, love matters.

Living the Human-Animal Bond

DSC02061Sometimes what animals say to us is surprising. I remember when a very ill cat told me he wanted to die: he really didn’t, as I could tell from his nuanced conversation (yes, you can pick up nuances telepathically), he really wanted to know what was wrong with him, what his person was doing about it, and what it would mean. Would he recover and be fine, or drag on and be miserable? Sadly, his person ignored the answers I offered, and, while the cat recovered, his journey to wellness would have been easier on both of them if his person had simply backed me up by explaining things. I learned from that to be careful who I worked with—because the human-animal bond as I live it, at home and at work, means that we listen to our animals, respond to them as intelligent equals, and bumble our way through life, together.

While Clem’s case ended in death, it also perfectly illustrated our lives with animals.

The human-animal bond is important to me: creating families with animals has been a major feature of my life for the last eighteen years. While I had “pets” throughout childhood, and in particular a beloved English Cocker spaniel for ten years, it wasn’t until 1998 that I consciously created a family with dogs, and, eventually, a cat (better known as our resident alien). As my relationship with my two Cavalier King Charles spaniels and the cat deepened, I “learned up” with my animal family. By that I mean I recognized that our life together was one of equals, regardless of species, that it didn’t matter that they were animals and I’m human, because the soul bond between us is there.

These days, many of us are proud to claim our animals as family members, whether we live alone with them, as I do, or other humans are involved. Living our lives with animals as family (what I call “multi-species families”) enriches us beyond anything most of us ever imagined, and, of course, adds strange complications and annoyances. I drive the car and buy the food, and my animals, well, they learn to live in a world geared towards humans, which isn’t easy for them, even for dogs like mine, which are bred to do exactly that. My life isn’t college costs or “sex and drugs” talk: it’s poop bags and leash training and finding a way to communicate when English isn’t their first language.

In this brave world of the human-animal bond, we and our animal families have learned up from ancient necessity that brought wolves to our nomadic camps to heart and soul growth in our modern comfy neighborhoods. It makes for strange and fascinating lives—and the heartache of loss as terrible as it is when we lose humans, even worse if family and friends don’t understand and support us.

But on that day, when a woman and a dog said goodbye to each other, that was a day to celebrate. Because someone loved her dog and lost her. Because she and her dog did everything right. Because I could provide some small comfort in the process.

We always hate to see them go—grief hurts. We can also always celebrate the bond—because grief means we loved and were loved.

And love matters.

Yes, it hurts sometimes, but that’s why I do what I do. Because once in a while I can be there at a crucial moment in the life of a multi-species family. Because I can help. Because I can bear witness to what really matters in our busy, mixed-up, noisy world.

Love.

© 2016 Robyn M Fritz

Space Clearing – The First Step to a Successful Holistic Business

Space Clearing Setup

First published July 28, 2016 in The Natural Path

Part 1

Whether your holistic business is brand new or established, your first thought for maintaining and growing it should be space clearing.

I know, you’re thinking financing, client attraction and retention, staffing … yes, all those are essential steps. But without a clear space, you’re fighting an uphill battle. Here’s why.

We, and our spaces, are a complex bundle of energy. Everything we think, feel, do, say, all of our existence, really, is energy. Unfortunately, we don’t generally think of energy as a force in our lives, so we don’t always pay attention to it (and we can’t see it, only its effects). Then things suddenly don’t work, and we wonder why.

The “why” is energy, the unseen essence of a space, which needs to flow freely. If it doesn’t, it’s “stuck,” and that causes problems.

Let’s look at this strictly as it relates to your business space. You can tell if your space is thriving by how you, your staff, and your patients/clients feel in it. If people feel uncomfortable, tired, grumpy, uninspired, or simply lackluster, your space is probably stuck. Business can and will slow down as a result, because it’s harder to be successful, let alone thrive, in a stuck space. The answer is space clearing.

Think you’re fine, your business and employees are thriving, and clients are pouring in? Great. Help good things continue by, you guessed it, space clearing.

Space clearing is the vibrational equivalent to vacuuming and dusting. It keeps the energy of a space clear and moving—in other words, clean.

We tend to forget that nothing stays clear without assistance. That’s why we’re always cleaning—so things are spotless and inviting. Vibrational clearing is more intense than physical clearing because both people and their spaces (and the objects in them) are alive and have feelings (believe it or not). As people move through their day, bits of these emotions and thoughts spin off and are left behind in the places we visit—your office. As these bits mingle in a space, they can either meld into some awesome whole or, more typically, clash a bit (or a lot). It’s no one’s fault—it’s life.

Are you balking at thinking your spaces are alive? Fine, that’s an argument for another time. Instead, deal with the results. Notice how your space feels after a tense staff meeting or after a day of difficult client appointments. Depending on how your intuition works, it can feel heavy or dense, or look dull or cloudy. That’s stuck energy messing up your space—until you clear it.

Getting ‘stuck’ isn’t necessarily a bad thing: it’s part of life. What matters is how we deal with it. Paying attention is key.

You can spend a lot of time thinking about how people feel and working on that with whatever techniques work for you (psychotherapy, energy healing, staff meetings, play, CAKE), but if you don’t pay attention to the space you work in, you’re trying to get better in murky water. And you’d rather have the cleanest water possible, right? So here’s how you figure that out.

FINDING A BASELINE

To create healthy business spaces, and keep them healthy, you first need a baseline. You get that by checking your space out, literally and figuratively. With all your senses.

Repeat each of the exercises below in each room of your business. Start by closing your eyes and concentrating on the task before you. Then proceed to the exercise, repeating it for every area or room, including outdoor spaces.

Sight: How does it look to you? Is it bright, dark, colorful, bland, messy, dingy?

Smell: How does the place smell—moldy, fresh, stale, empty?

Touch: What happens when you touch the space: a wall, desk, any physical part of it? Is it sticky, wet, rough?

Taste: Sure, you’re not actually going to taste a space. But imagine that you could. Would it be bland, bitter, sweet, fresh, sour, chemical-laden?

Hear: What do you hear in the space? Street traffic? Wind? Creaking floors? Silence?

Intuition: Of course you knew it was coming. How does the space intuitively strike you? To begin, you might want to close your eyes so you can be as “other-sensory” deprived as you can. Just be present with the space. Note how your body reacts. Note where the reaction is coming from (direction, room).

Is the feeling dense, heavy, light, too airy to breathe in, colorful, bland, dark?

The practicalities: Spaces are colored by what happens in them, just like our bodies are affected by our experiences. Knowing a place’s history can help, as long as it’s one element in your understanding of it and not the entire story.

What do you know about the spaces—have they experienced high turnover, unhappy or stressed humans, cold or heat?

WHAT YOUR BASELINE MEANS

Combine everything you know to determine areas that feel perfect and others that might need some focused attention. This is your baseline. The parts that need attention need space clearing. Be grateful for the others, and spend some time figuring out why they are that way (and keep them clear with regular space clearing as well). You’ll be clearing the entire space anyway.

In Part 2 (August), we’ll cover what you want from the space itself, from outlining what you need and want in a space, which is essential to fixing imbalances, to the step most professional space clearing experts (and business owners) don’t consider: learning what the space has to say about itself and the people it encounters.

In Part 3 (September) we’ll cover the space clearing itself, from a big initial clearing to daily maintenance.

In the meantime, here’s a first step to help your spaces get clear and stay that way: sea salt. Put a few tablespoons of sea salt in a small bowl in each room of your practice (or use Himalayan salt lamps). Sea salt is an ancient (and effective) clearing device, and will immediately make a difference in how your business feels.

Try it, and see you in August.

© 2016 Robyn M Fritz

 

Remembering Our Beloved Dead – NatPath.com

Originally published June 29, 2016 in The Natural Path blog.

To honor and remember our beloved family members is a cathartic experience, and can be an extremely beneficial for our mind and body. Remembering lost loved ones does not have to be an inherently sad experience. On the contrary, it can uplift you and even heal you. One of the best ways to do this is by establishing a ritual.

Rituals aren’t religion, so don’t panic. They aren’t even necessarily spiritual. Rituals are simply ways we choose to remember something. When we choose to remember.

For example, on April 26, I had a piece of chocolate cake and remembered my mom. It was the twenty-first anniversary of her death. Why did I do that? Because my family celebrated birthdays and anniversaries with chocolate cake topped with mom’s delicious caramel frosting (we always insisted that she double the recipe). I continue to celebrate family milestones even though most of my family has died. But I bought the piece of cake.

While I ate it I thought of the time we baked a Marionberry pie and, when we pulled it out of the oven and it overflowed onto the floor, we laughed so hard my dad rushed into the room to join in the fun. None of us could explain why it was so funny. On April 26 I also remembered the moment in March 1995 when mom asked me to stay in Salem, Oregon, a bit longer, because she “wasn’t going to be here much longer.” While I didn’t understand how intuition worked back then, I heard the truth of what she was saying—and left anyway. Yes, I still regret that decision.

This last weekend it was Father’s Day, so I stopped for a moment and celebrated my dad, who died June 30, 1995. I thought about how we used to work together in his store—he was a pharmacist and had a gift store, and I was a clerk from the seventh grade right through college. I laughed a bit at the memory of us working together, because on this Father’s Day we were working together again through ritual.

Good memories, sad memories, they’re all part of life. Would we do something different if given the chance for a do-over? Maybe. Maybe not. Life is about next times, and we live them the best we can.

I encourage you all to stop and set a time, even ten minutes, to create a ritual to honor your ancestors, those you knew before they died and those stretching back centuries. This time for a ritual will help establish a connection between you and your beloved dead. If you set a regular monthly time to do that, great, or choose an anniversary.

HERE’S SOME TIPS ON HOW TO ESTABLISH A RITUAL:

  • Set the place: arrange pictures and mementos, candles, flowers, a beach rock, even a piece of cake. Use items that mean something to you, and even to them, if you know what those are.
  • Invite your spirit guide to filter for you. (You do have a relationship with a strong spirit guide, don’t you? It’s critical.)
  • Get yourself grounded, balanced, and energetically shielded.
  • Invite your ancestor(s) to join you.
  • Relive the memories, good and bad.
  • Invite your deceased loved ones to comment.
  • When you feel the ceremony is complete, thank everyone for joining you and remove the “place setting” (this breaks the circle, allowing the energy to flow).
  • Cleanse yourself with salt, a clearing spray, a walk.

Cherish the memories. Let them help heal you. And connect with those we’ve lost.

Note that some people think that honoring the dead on the anniversary of their death is morbid, keeps the energy stuck, and otherwise isn’t healthy. I disagree. Create your ritual, your time to connect, on a day that means something to you, even a set time of the week or month. Our experiences shape us, and honoring our ancestors (including our animal family) on these days is sacred, uplifting, energizing, and healing. As we all know, there’s never too much of that.

© 2016 Robyn M Fritz

Do Our Animals Reincarnate? Part 1 of 10

AniMurphymals and the Afterlife

Part 1 of 10: Honoring Murphy on her birthday

On October 9, 1998, I met my soul mate. Again. At the time I knew nothing about reincarnation, past lives, or even intuition. All I knew was that I’d driven three hours to meet the eleven-week-old Cavalier King Charles spaniel puppy I’d committed to buying the week before by phone. The puppy was bouncing up and down trying to see past her mother and grandmother. As our eyes met, I was stunned to hear her voice in my head clearly say, “Oh, it’s you” and to hear something inside me say it right back.

It took me three years to understand that this dog, who called herself Murphy Brown, was the reincarnation of a human woman who was my childhood friend (yes, human) and later my beloved English cocker spaniel Maggie. On December 25, 2001, that same soul again reincarnated as my Cavalier boy, Alki—yes, the same soul in two bodies in the same household at the same time. And on July 28, 2015, that same soul reincarnated again as another Cavalier boy—and joined me eleven weeks later as my puppy, Oliver Alki.

I know, you’re thinking, what? So, let’s back up.

Before Murphy came, I’d spent many years handicapped and ill, years in which I lost everything—my self-confidence, career, financial security—everything but my family and my quirky sense of humor. Whenever I thought about giving up, I recommitted to creating a life of meaning and purpose, as long as it was fun. In 1998 I decided that fun meant buying a $175,000 dog (okay, a condo so I could buy a dog, but still). All I wanted was a dog. Just. A. Dog. Some might say the universe had other ideas. The dog certainly did.

ebook cover 720 x 540People debate reincarnation, multiple simultaneous lives, whether humans can be reborn as animals (or vice versa)—even whether animals can reincarnate. Others like me live with the truth: souls can do whatever they want, regardless of human dogma. Souls choose the form they need to do the job they chose before they incarnated, and if everything works out, they succeed. As we all know, though, once bodies, free will, and real life interact, it’s a free-for-all, anything-can-happen world.

Souls also move together in soul groups. These groups of souls experience multiple lifetimes and between-life times, together, however it works out, by choice or by accident. As part of a soul group, my family has been reincarnating together for centuries, freely bouncing between human, animal, and, yes, alien lives. I’ve been human many times, and also dogs, cats, even whales (I still have the hips to prove those), and my current animal family has usually been right there with me. One time, in ancient Egypt, my cat was a woman, and the dogs and I were her cats.

Is this just my weird family, or everyone’s? That depends on soul purpose—and luck.

Reincarnating together happens routinely, even when we don’t know it. From what I’ve seen in my intuitive practice, more often than not our animal companions are reincarnating with us in different animal bodies throughout our lives. Luckily for us it doesn’t seem to hinder (or annoy) them that we are seldom smart (or aware) enough to notice. I’ll illustrate with my own family, which will give you plenty of ideas about yours.

My Dogs’ Lives

The Coming of Murphy

Despite my fondness for dogs, I never thought of them as more than pets until I bought a dog who wouldn’t settle for that. It just took me a while to figure it out. Murphy quickly developed health problems that would derail my finances, my ego, and ultimately my view of life itself. As we worked through her chronic and debilitating illnesses, I noticed they looked alarmingly like mine. Puzzled and furious, I decided that neither of us would have a life of pain and disability, and went looking for answers. A few other things happened along the way.

Robyn M Fritz and MurphyMurphy wasted no time dismantling everything I thought I knew about the world (which turned out to be a good thing). She was six months old when I noticed that her nuanced responses to people, animals, and the world around her were far beyond what we consider to be animal intelligence. The rest of it is the earthquake’s fault. On February 28, 2001, Murphy was curling up for a nap when she leaped up barking and snarling and dragged us out of our condo—about two minutes before Seattle was rocked by a 6.8 earthquake.

That was a defining moment: I knew my entire world would change unless I ignored what had just happened—and all the other things I’d watched that dog do since we’d become a family. But what was the fun in that? Trained as an investigative reporter, and a cynical skeptic by nature, I knew what I’d just seen: there was clearly more going on in Murphy’s head than I’d ever imagined, and I couldn’t wait to learn more.

Boy, did I! To get us both healthy I studied human and veterinary medicine, both allopathic and alternative care, including nutrition, herbs, homeopathy, chiropractic, and supplements. I explored ethology, behavior, ecology, anthropology, physics, philosophy, ancient and alternative spirituality, animal communication, TTouch, acutonics, and energy healing. I experimented and knocked on doors I didn’t know existed before Murphy came and opened them for both of us. Desperate, curious, determined, I was open to possibilities, even ones that seemed dorky (and are).

I was a rational, anal-retentive, coolly intellectual atheist who’d abandoned religion in my thirties because it just didn’t make sense. I preferred key lime pie to meditation, liked yoga in principle, and avoided anything that smacked of New Age peculiarities. Sensibilities, religion, politics—I figured anything “given” was both open to challenge and needed it, and the eternal rebel in me was happy to oblige.

Although I had never felt comfortable in the world as other people described it, I didn’t understand why until Murphy rattled enough of the cages we lock ourselves into. The human-centric worldview exploded as I discovered a world I never knew existed, from a living, aware universe to reincarnation, spirit guides, and practical mysticism.

Of course there was something else involved, that thing that ties us all together, no matter our experiences: the willingness to love. The woman who in 1998 cheerfully greeted the exuberant puppy who became Murphy also harbored a closed, skeptical heart, wounded by childhood betrayal, grief, and loss, and shriveled by illness and despair. I was willing to love, or I never would have bought Murphy: I just no longer knew how.

We figured it out together. Although it took five years for us to heal, years of heartache and humor, we were perfectly content together, a family: that one of us was human and the other a dog never mattered. I couldn’t imagine one thing that would make our lives better, which means I honestly did not see Alki coming.

© 2016 Robyn M Fritz

Energy Boundaries in Natural Path

columbiteWe all have energy boundaries. We don’t all know how to work with them. Read about it at Natural Path.

Using crystals can help. This is columbite. I think it’s the most powerful grounding and protection stone out there. Besides Fallon.

© 2016 Robyn M Fritz

Intuition at thenatpath.com

nature matches technology 6-11-14I’m pleased to write a monthly article for a wonderful blog, Natural Path. They describe themselves as “(thenatpath.com) is a collective movement, a modern revolution aimed to bring the values of naturopathic medicine to every single person, across the globe. Every month, we bring you the greatest leaders in natural medicine, with real-world solutions to your health concerns. We have solutions for you. Join a community of thousands of health-minded individuals looking to transform their health and future.”

My first article is on making sense of your intuition. Enjoy it here. And please let me know what you think: how have you discovered your intuition?

Truth is, we are all intuitive. We just need to get busy and learn how to use our intuition, just like we need to practice any skill set.

© Robyn M Fritz 2016

Remembering Our Beloved Dead

DSC02061Last night, April 26, I had a piece of chocolate cake and remembered my mom. It was the twenty-first anniversary of her death.

My family celebrated birthdays and anniversaries with chocolate cake topped with mom’s delicious caramel frosting (we always insisted that she double the recipe). I continue to celebrate family milestones even though most of my family has died. But I bought the piece of cake.

While I ate it I thought of the time we baked a marionberry pie and, when we pulled it out of the oven and it overflowed onto the floor, we laughed so hard my dad rushed into the room to join in the fun. None of us could explain why it was so funny. Last night I also remembered the moment in March 1995 when she asked me to stay in Salem, Oregon, a bit longer, because she “wasn’t going to be here much longer.” While I didn’t understand how intuition worked back then, I heard the truth of what she was saying—and left anyway.

Good memories, sad memories, they’re all part of life. Would we do something different if given the chance for a do-over? Maybe. Maybe not. Life is about next times, and we live them the best we can.

I encourage you all to stop and set a time, even ten minutes, to honor your ancestors, those you knew and those stretching back centuries. Here’s some tips on how to do that:

  • Set the place: arrange pictures and mementos, candles, flowers, even a piece of cake.
  • Invite your spirit guide to filter for you. (You do have a relationship with a strong spirit guide, don’t you? It’s critical.)
  • Get yourself grounded, balanced, shielded.
  • Invite your ancestor(s) to join you.
  • Relive the memories, good and bad.
  • Invite your deceased loved ones to comment.
  • Listen.
  • When you feel the ceremony is complete, thank everyone for joining you and remove the “place setting” (this breaks the circle, allowing the energy to flow).
  • Cleanse yourself with salt, a clearing spray, a walk.

Cherish the memories. Let them help heal you.

Note that some people think that honoring the dead on the anniversary of their death is morbid, keeps the energy stuck, and otherwise isn’t healthy. I disagree. Our experiences shape us, and honoring our ancestors (including our animal family) on these days is sacred, uplifting, energizing, and healing. As we all know, there’s never too much of that.

© Robyn M Fritz 2016